Friendship is one of the most important aspects in life and without it you cannot survive. That’s why it is important to choose the right kind of friends that you are willing to share your ultimate secrets with and where you are guaranteed to receive a well and equal treatment in return.

We go through our lives searching for that special friend, however, through our journey of search we encounter many unwanted. Nevertheless, this journey of discovery is what shapes our lives and views because it helps us tackle the concept of trust and betrayal, the essence of preparing for the worst and accepting the inevitable.

Our life is shaped through this discovery and through it we see life from a different perspective. It might not be the ideal view we were raised to believe during our childhood but that is the saddened truth. Life is not about keeping scores, it is about whom you loved and whom you hurt whether intentionally or unintentionally. It is about either choosing to keep your friend’s trust or ignoring it. It is about the friendship you made and how you managed it. It is about what judgments you conveyed on others and how it spread to affect the course of time. It is about whom you have ignored with full control and intention just to see them get hurt and whom you have focused your full attention on.

That is how I saw life through the eyes of the people I encountered through my time. It bothered me to see how many viewed and regarded other’s feelings with little or no respect and did nothing about it. Thus, you see people who were intimate friends have become foes and were keen to inflict pain and sorrow on one another, and when you try to search for the truth of this sudden change of behavior you get no logical answer.

I believe that only you can choose the way those hearts will be affected and in return, you will have to face the consequences of your choices that are transmitted through your attitude.

Thus the more I search, the more I realize the importance of attitude in ones life. Attitude can build or destroy a relationship, a home or an entire nation. How many disagreements occurred because of the attitude of certain figures that refused to step down or compromise to certain situations? How many times people died because of the attitude and misconception of certain ideas. We have a choice regarding the attitude we choose and it is through these choices that we decide whether to drive it towards the right path or the wrong path.

We cannot change the past or predict the future. The only thing we are capable to manage is to play on the one key we control and that is our attitude. How we react to the events that happen to us will have a trigger affect on our future and everything that stands in its way. So through this search for friendship we will encounter the helpful and the hateful and it is up to us to be able to differentiate between both before putting our whole trust on the person.

Unfortunately, we are not always right in our choices but with the right use of attitude, we can always choose to correct them. And as my grandmother used to say, “You can always test friendship through the pass of time.”